Comments on: The Danger of Parenting Books

By: Leah

Leah — Tue, 12 Oct 2010 10:55:14 +0000

@Lauren, that seems like a no-brainer, but I find that even books written by Ph. D.s in psychology are often filled with useless and even harmful advice. Not to mention that the experts disagree and develop new approaches every couple of years.

Personally, I am not crazy about Ginot’s school of thought, but that’s just my opinion.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Tue, 12 Oct 2010 09:30:28 +0000

I think that the critical factor that gets missed by so many parents is SO BASIC: WHO wrote the book?
On Becoming Babywise is the most insidious example of people who have ZERO qualifications to give child-rearing advice, but there are many people who write parenting books based on nothing more than their own experience. That’s bad enough but what is truly shocking is the enormous number of parents who uncritically buy them based on recommendations of their similarly-inexperienced friends.

I have found that all my favorite parenting books seem to be written by students of Dr. Haim Ginott…

By: Batya from Shiloh

Batya from Shiloh — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 13:40:55 +0000

I made many mistakes, but at least my kids still talk to me.

By: Leah

Leah — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:07:21 +0000

@Mama, a good support system IS vital. I am making mental notes what to say or not to say to my kids when they’ll be parents. Let’s just hope I’ll remember that 10-20 years down the road.

By: Mama+4chicklets

Mama+4chicklets — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 15:46:15 +0000

Very well written. I agree. Confidence and a good support system is a must in regards to good parenting. I hope that all you have learned and determined on your own will be transmitted to your children as you help build their own parenting support systems.
Being consistent with my mothering is my biggest challenge. My 5 1/2 year old son keeps me on my toes and often pulls the rug out from underneath me, figuratively. Just when I think I’m on a roll he will remind me that G-d is the real parent and that I’m still a student. Sometimes, parenting books, blogs, friends etc. are there for the emotional support and reminder that some have it worse.

By: Leah

Leah — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 17:28:53 +0000

@Lain, Thank you for the praise and the mention. Looking forward to reading your site.

By: Lain

Lain — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 18:48:57 +0000

Loved this post! Added it to our “Best of Parenting” round up at parentingsquad.com:

http://parentingsquad.com/best-of-parenting-round-up-global-edition

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uberVU - social comments — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 07:44:39 +0000

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By: Leah

Leah — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 19:42:40 +0000

The problem is that there are so many theories and all of them have been “converted.” I don’t think there is one Torah-based parenting style, b/c as you say all parents and children have unique personalities.